“Knowing a person is like music, what attracts us to them is their melody, and as we get to know who they are, we learn their lyrics.” It is often the case that when we first meet someone we want to get to know them very well. It is just natural instinct to have (and there is nothing wrong with it). I see it as being curious because you want to know more about them and who they are as a person. We have to spend time and get to know someone even if it is scary or intimidating. I know that we are not supposed to make judgements about other people, but those could wait until you really get to know someone super well. Only then can you decide if you want to be friends with this person, something more, or nothing at all.
You could have known this person for days, weeks, months, years and yet you still may not know everything about that person. That is perfectly okay because while people may be getting to know each other in a short amount of time, for other people it takes a longer amount of time, especially if you see yourself with this person intimately. Honestly, I want to get to know someone before deciding if I want some kind of relationship (even a friendship) with them. There is this study I found online (especially for couples) that says it takes 2 to 4 years to getting to know someone completely. For example, I have known this one person since high school. We never really hung out until recently (just last year when we reconnected). I have still been trying to get to know this person and I have been letting this person get to know me as well.
So I encourage my readers (and everybody else out there) to getting to know other people and never being afraid of asking difficult questions. We are social people and have interaction with people on a daily basis (unless you live in complete isolation). The truth is that we are getting to know each other (regardless if we already know this person or not). Sometimes we have to get to know someone all over again too (meaning the same person again). Be brave, be curious, and be fearless. Do not be afraid to go on a deeper level with someone. We are caring people (on the surface and deep down inside). It is all a part of living and being human.
Getting to Know Each Other
Know her for more than the girl
Who laughs and smiles all the time.
Nobody knows that she bangs her
Head against the wall, trying to make
Sense of the injustice of the world.
She is also trying to make sense of
You because the confident person
She used to know is no longer there
Anymore. You are replaced by
Someone who is unsure and
Unconfident. She cannot be there
For you anymore than she can
Be there for herself. She wants you
To let her in past the wall you keep
Building higher up every time.
Let her in because you know deep
Down that you should trust her.
She cannot let you lead yourself off
The ledge like that anymore. She is
Never careless or selfish. If anything,
She cares too much and that is how
She gets hurt. She trusts too easily
And knows that she deserves the best
Only because she has been through
The worst. You may see her as blessed,
Lucky and with the world below
Her feet, but she does not view herself
The same way. Just like she thinks there
Are better things ahead for you when
You think you are no good and unloved
Person. Let her get to know you just like
She wants you to get to know her.
She knows that she is imperfect and is
Not ordinary just like you are not
Just any ordinary person.
